Are we losing control...or gaining it?

As I have mentioned on a number of occasions, I am huge fan of reading. While you won't catch me buried in a Harry "Potter" book or swooning over the "Twilight" series, you are almost certain to find me plowing through a business book late at night. Now, I have been an avid reader for many years but I have to say that I have NEVER seen so many great books come out as I have in the past year! I mean...it is unbelievable!

I recently plowed through Barnes and Noble in search of the latest in Social Media trends and theories. Needless to say, I found plenty of good resources. One of the books a picked up was the Bestselling book by Charlene Li and Josh Bernoff "Groundswell"!

I am only a few chapters in but I believe this will be one my "Top 10 of 2009". In reading the first few chapters I came across the story of Kevin Rose (Founder of Digg.com). Digg.com gives you the opportunity to search the internet and "digg" a variety of articles...both on websites and blogs. On Digg's homepage you can view a list of top-stories that people are "digging" throughout the day. Kevin Rose believed he had a fortress for a website until "Rudd-O" decided to write a blog releasing some valuable information. Rud-O wrote a blog releasing a code that allowed the technically advanced readers to make copies of the "uncopyable" DVDs on the market. Within a day over 15,000 Digg members voted for Rudd-O's post. As a results of all the "digging" the story made it on the homepage of Digg.com for the world to see. Needless to say, the movie industry was lesss than thrilled. They put in an order to have the link removed. Even though Digg.com did not break any laws, Kevin rose decided to remove the link in order to escape any unnecessary legal action. Rose removed the link and reponded with a post of his own, informing the "Diggers" of the situation. The only problem is...Rose can't control the information posted on other websites/blogs. Within a day the "Digger Mob" located the encryption and posted it on nearly 100 blogs. By the end of the day that number had climbed to over 3,100.

Lesson: "Lawyers and entrepreneurs aren't the most powerful force on the internet. People are. And people, empowered by technology, won't always go along." - Groundswell

So, how do we gain control when it is obvious that control is the "mystical unicorn" of the internet?

We learn how to use the "crowd" to our benefit! Here are a few ways to do so...

1. Stay involved!

- Google your name. Google your company's name. Do your best to identify your reputation within the social media circle. If you recognize that your reputation is "sub-par"...engage the commentator and seek answers. Every time an individual posts a negative article about us, it tarnishes our brand. If we seek out these individuals and inquire as to how we can be of better service, we have the ability to turn an angry mob into our personal marketing department.

2. Be proactive!

- Start blogging! Don't just wait to respond, begin sharing info and creating a following of your own. This is not only for blogs...we must create a presence on sites such as YouTube, Twitter, Facebook, and LinkedIn.

3. Be active and current!

- Having a blog that is not current or irrelevant is worse than not having one at all. Individuals read blogs because it is a regular flow of pertinant information. If we haven't updated our blog in 6 months and the last story is not relevant to today...our following will deteriorate.

How good do you want to be?

In writing these articles, I want to provoke thought...I want to deliver ideas in a way that drives each of us to become more introspective! The neat thing is that it also gives me an opportunity to share some personal stories along the way.

In each of our lives, we approach events that have the ability to impact us forever! In about a month I will be face-to-face with one of these moments, as I will be saying "I do" to the love of my life in Playa del Carmen, Mexico! To say the least, I am an incredibly lucky man! One of my friends said it best when he said, "The three of you should be very happy together! You, Her, and her seeing-eye-dog!"


Now some of you may be asking yourselves, "Is he going to sit here and tell us all about HIS life or is actually going to give us something to take home?"


The fact is, while this wedding is a once in a lifetime event, it is the result of a process I have used a number of times throughout my life.

I have shared this process with friends that are in relationships, college students who are looking to make better grades, and sales professionals that are looking to have a record-breaking year!


1. We must ask ourselves, "How good do I want to be?"

This is not a question our boss, spouse, or kids can answer for us! This is a question we must answer for ourselves! Do I want to be average? Do I want to be good? Or...Do I want to be the BEST?! There are plenty of people out there that are perfectly fine with being average and there is nothing wrong with that. However, being average is a matter of choice...not a matter of ability! We were all given the tools to be extraordinary!

What if I do want to be the best?


2. Become clear on what it will take to become the best!

There is no better way to do this than to identify an individual that has a experienced a great deal of success in the industry and ask them, "What did it take for you to get to where you are today?" It is impossible for us to really know what it will take but the best road map we can follow is that of someone who has been there!


3. Make the decision, "Am I willing to do what it takes?"

This is typically where separation begins! "Well, I want to be the best sales person in our company! But, you mean I have to get to work an hour earlier than everyone else?" Some call it making excuses...I call it the "Meatloaf Mentality" after Meatloaf's 1993 hit song "I'd Do Anything for Love" (but I won't do that). It is really a simple progression...

I want to be the BEST!

I know what it takes to be the BEST!

Am I willing to do what it takes to be BEST?

"The difference between winners and losers is that winners are willing to pay a price that losers won't pay!" - Jim Jacobus, CSP


4. Identify mentor that is flying at 30,000 ft and one
that is flying at 10 ft!

"What are you talking about Jason?"

We must have one mentor that is just around the corner from us and one that is miles down the road!

ex. For my relationship with Caitlyn, I meet with one young man that has been married 3 years and I meet with another guy that has been married for 30. The "newlywed" can still remember how he felt when they were trying to hash out there finances and the "veteran" helps me keep things in perspective. It is about addressing the "now" yet thinking about what "will be"! From a professional perspective, we must identify the individual that is where we want to be in a year and the one that is where we want to be in 10 years!


If each of us can be honest with ourselves as we move through this process, there is no limit to what we can accomplish both personally and professionally!


p.s. Thank you to all of you that have played a role in my relationship with Caitlyn. If it is true that we are only as good as our friends, then I have a great deal to look forward to in life!